Letting Go

There are moments in our lives when we have to let go of certain things, its even ironic when we say “certain” things. Nothing is more certain in this world than death, and that is the one thing we so want to be uncertain about.
Once we accept that death is certain, then the concept of death can be expanded/applied to many things – relationships, things, possession’s, memories……as everything dies at one point or another. We feel a void, a vacuum, when we let go or are being let go off. Actually, this is the play that our ego plays with us constantly, it builds in us the false notion of ownership, of possessing, of claiming. Although when this concept of death dawns on us, then letting go doesn’t seem to be so heart wrenching, as in either case it was heading for death.
Now flip this and think from the ancient scriptures point of view, nothing is really dying, it is a continuous journey, the journey stops when the ego is transcended, when the ego ceases to wield its control on the individual. Then what is this heart wrenching sadness of letting go all about, everything is actually staying in perpetuity, only the forms, the shapes, the configuration changes. Though we humans want it only in a “certain” way, only then we believe it exists, else we feel cheated, let down.
In my view the act of letting go is superfluous, when in truth you don’t really own anything, what is it that you are letting go of anyway.
Let’s take an example of lovers – Lovers may cease to exist as lovers, even then the “LOVE” persists. We get attached to being lovers, whereas all that is essential is we love. Near, far, close, away are concepts of space and time, love is beyond that. When we recognise this, love blossoms in the here and now.
The only true “let go” is letting go of one’s ego…. Bliss is all that surfaces thereafter.

Real Memory

Thee

In the darkness of the night I search for thee

I know you are around still I can’t hold thee.

Loved You with every ounce of me and I still feel I have so much to give.

This is just a start I feel and you are a blessing that I was born to receive.

Wonder how many more lifetimes before I merge in thee, I wonder if this is the lifetime it is chosen to be.

The right question?

More often than not, asking a right question is the answer. #articulate #focus #gettothepoint

Let go

Some people are incredibly unfortunate that they remember every bad memory of their lives and they unknowingly treasure it. Time to # letgo

Stop Hurrying and Start Living

If you’re not getting enough things done on your to-do list, you’re not alone. It’s common to feel a little overwhelmed, rushed, and even guilty when you’re unable to get everything done each day. Staying focused and in the moment is challenging.

Then the little things seem to start piling up. The desk needs to be tidied and the laundry needs to be done. The only obvious solution is to be even busier and to schedule every minute of the day.

It’s important to remember that nothing stays finished for long. Most of us feel like everything has to be done before we give ourselves permission to enjoy life. However, that moment of feeling “caught up” never seems to come. This is a classic trap we fall into, spiraling us into busy-ness.

If you need to create a little more space and enjoyment in your life, try these tips:

1. Learn to be glad that you have more work to do. Remember, if you have more to do, your time is valuable. Imagine the implication of not having any tasks to complete at work. You’d likely be out of a job sooner, rather than later.
   • Be grateful that so many of the people in your life need you.

2. Look for dead time. You might believe that you’re busy 24/7, but that’s likely untrue. Use those moments between tasks to mentally relax. We all think much more than necessary.
   • If you’re working on a report at work, you’re probably also thinking about lunch, the unpaid mobile bill, and what you’re going to do this weekend. None are helpful, nor do they help you get your report completed.
   • You’ll be much more relaxed and get more accomplished if you mentally limit yourself to the task at hand.{Remember multitasking is actually a myth}

3. Slower can be faster. The military has a saying, “Slow is smooth and smooth is fast.” Calmly approaching each task will frequently result in getting it done quicker. As our minds become over stimulated, it’s much more challenging to stay focused.
   • Think about how quickly you tie your shoes each day. Now try to tie your shoes as quickly as possible. You’ll almost certainly find that you’ve become slower. Any excessive increase in tension slows things down.

4. Limit unnecessary tasks. There’s no point in spending valuable time on things that don’t matter. If you’re spending time on tasks that have little meaning, ditch them. Prioritize, Prioritize & Prioritize.
5. Limit the important tasks, too. You can probably only get a few important tasks done each day. Making a list of 5 is certain to lead to feeling overwhelmed. Pick the 2-3 most important tasks to focus on. The rest can wait until tomorrow. The order of Priority based on importance, yeah, you guessed it, is important.
6. Give yourself the time you need. Everyone does some mental math each day that goes something like this, “This meeting ought to take 60 minutes. I’ll need 20 minutes to interview that job candidate. I have 30 minutes to drive home and change. Then, I still have 15 minutes to get Saira to dance practice.”
   • We all tend to be optimistic, and our mental schedule requires everything to go perfectly. The interview could take 20 minutes, at best. It might also take 40 minutes. It probably won’t take 10.
   • Be realistic and give yourself the time required for each task, as well as the time between tasks.

If you’re constantly in a hurry, life can feel chaotic and joyless.

You have more time available than you realize. You can also learn to enjoy a busy schedule. Focus on each task and give yourself time to complete it. Remember that remaining calm and slowing down can actually increase the amount you get accomplished.

Reap the Benefits of Staying Focused at Work

It’s imperative to stay focused at work if you wish to meet your deadlines and succeed in your career. However, such concentration isn’t always easy to achieve. Something always seems to sabotage even your best efforts. Someone calls a meeting, a client throws a monkey wrench in your plans for the day, or something unexpected and unplanned happens.

How can you sail past these normal interruptions and keep your focus?

Implement these strategies into your work routines:

1. Set priorities. Setting priorities is integral to planning your day. Schedule the most difficult tasks early in the day and the easier ones later. When prioritizing your day, make a list of your required tasks. This will keep you organized as you tackle each and every issue. This simple activity of prioritizing can reap you amazing results.

2. Limit distractions and interruptions. Keep your work area as free from distractions and interruptions as possible by maintaining quiet surroundings.(Well this isn’t so easy in today’s open plan offices), Though you can always ask others to wait a moment until you’re finished with what needs to be completed before helping them with something they need done. You can keep a small flag on your desk which says “Do Not Disturb, unless the office is on Fire”. (They will get the message)

3. Make work fun. You’re allowed to enjoy your work. In fact, those who love their work are more efficient. Find something that you like about your job. Use the fun aspect daily to give you a heightened ability to focus on your work.

4. Complete duties in the easiest way possible. For many tasks, there’s more than one way to achieve a satisfactory, or even exemplary, result. Pick the way that is easiest for you to get the desired result. “Easy is right, Right is Easy”- Chuang Tzu

5. Stand and stretch. If you have a job where you sit most of the day, take breaks to stretch and move around. You might also want to take a short walk outside.(Get some Sun- Recharge) When you get back to your desk, you’ll feel refreshed and be better able to focus on your work.

6. Drink coffee or another beverage. Many people love to have their coffee during their workday. If this is something that you enjoy, go ahead and partake in a cup or two. As a stimulant, coffee might help you to stay focused on what you need to do. On the other hand, water is always a wonderful, refreshing choice.

7. Have your vision checked regularly. If you’re having challenges with concentrating or are developing regular headaches, this may be due to an issue with your vision. Have your eyes checked on a regular basis. When you’re working, glance away from your computer screen from time to time in order to take the strain off of your eyes and refresh your thought processes.

8. Keep a motivating picture nearby. Perhaps it motivates you to think of how your work helps you to take care of your family. In this case, a picture of your loved ones could be your motivating image. You might have a favorite affirmation, saying, or image of your main goal that motivates you to work harder, so a picture of this could remind you to stay on track.

Staying focused at work will make you look impressive to your superiors and coworkers.

Use these tips each day to enhance your ability to concentrate and achieve the goals that you have set for yourself.

Desire

​It is hard to fight against impulsive desire. Whatever it

wants it will buy at the cost of the soul. – Heraclitus

Growing – Such a relative word !

​It’s sad to see organisation’s growing and not the people in it.

Letter to someone, noone, anyone

​Dear so and so,

I have been dwelling on this idea for quite sometime now, thought maybe it’s time to write it down.
Why is it that love is so complicated or is it? You love someone and that’s it, end of story isn’t it. Well that’s what I thought, apparently it’s more complicated than it appears. Love is good, only if…yeah it comes with caveats. Love as an emotion, love as a feeling, love as a way of being, is hardly understood by anybody anymore. Now is the age of possession, of greed and jealousy, of malice and envy.

Love as an emotion is so pure, so right, yet it creates the most wrongs in the hands of the non conformists. Love is plural when it comes to masses, in general, but love is expected to be singular when it comes to man and woman. Why? I don’t get it. Maybe I am the odd person, but I really don’t understand the singularity of love. For me love is like the Sun, it will burn and shine and light up anybody and everybody in its path, maybe burn some too. Now asking love/sun to shine only in a certain way, isn’t that a bit too much???

I am seeking answers, maybe you have a perspective to my dilemma, maybe not. Maybe I am the fool. What can I do, I don’t know any better.

Life goes on………

Yours Truly (not Singularly)
Love